Gimme that TRUST medicine!

rainen harper
Nov 21, 2019
4 min read

Maybe you wouldn't consider yourself having "trust issues." First of all, I'm sure you have questioned someone at some point in your life. Maybe you've not fully believed something someone has said to you, they did something that you thought they would never do to hurt you, or that someone said one thing and then you witnessed them doing it. Regardless- you were disappointed. You were let down because their image that you had built up of them was graffiti-d. Your TRUST in them was tarnished.

Or maybe you are that person that says "Yes I admit I have horrible trust issues and it sucks." For whatever circumstance; significant other cheating on you, people never being reliable, bad home life where you didn't feel taken care of of, that friend that talks the talk but is never really there when you need them. I think you know that it's miserable. Because of those HORRIBLE things that have been done to you- you can't shake the feeling that its going to happen again. And again. You HATE living your life in this fear of not trusting the people that mean the most. You need to have a bridge called trust but how the heck do you get that?

"Trust is that gap between the two sides you keep jumping backing and forth because you're too afraid to build that bridge."

There is this motto I have always told myself (specifically about boys) for people being in my life and its "Until I have a reason to not trust someone- I should trust them." And how many of you out there feel convicted of being in a relationship when you already knew this guy or girl had a bad rep with past relationships? But they were so attractive, and cool, and maybe it would be different with you. Maybe they wouldn't cheat on YOU?--- SO yes maybe I was trying to convict some of my sisters out there but YOU KNOW IT'S TRUE. There is no perfect way to say this so I'm just going to.

Our society makes us suspicious of everything- photoshop, every couple picture makes you think they are the world's cutest couple, heck- some Instagram accounts DISTORT BIBLE SCRIPTURE to make it sound a certain way! Have you noticed that?? But you have to do what you know is true. You have to believe what you know is true. For me, the only thing I can rely on with my entire heart is the Word. It is the ONE thing that I don't have to worry about trusting. Can you imagine trusting something completely without any kind of hesitance? Yep that's my Bible. You can have the world's greatest boyfriend or husband, mother, best friend but they will still disappoint you girl.

"Oh the COMFORT I have in placing my entire hope in the Word of God!"

Now for the kicker -> Raise your hand if you struggle trusting God. Raise your hand if someone you loved died tragically and you questioned God for doing that to your family. Raise your hand if you've been angry at God for bringing illness, divorce, depression in your life. YOU are not alone okay? I know you want to trust that everything will be okay. I know you want to trust that God is loving, and merciful, and sovereign. I KNOW you hurt because you want that FAITH in Christ so badly. As with getting the fitness goals, attaining that GPA, breaking the school record - trust is hard work. Jesus is the trust medicine.

1 Peter 1:24 tells us that our flesh is like grass and will whither away to grow again. Our faith is the same way. We are not ever going to have faith on a constant mountain top. It's going to whither a little bit. But you see it HAS to. God HAS to use trying moments in our lives to REMIND us of His incredible glory. Sometimes we feel so good and our faith is so good we forget to keep looking up at God. We're like "YES LORD praise you God. Thank you for everything you've done to deliver me, thank you for your goodness." Aaaaaand then we never expect to hurt again but then we do and we're confused. "God I was doing so good, what happened?" And he looks at you and he says "My child you were getting so cocky and you thought you didn't need me anymore. I love you and I want to remind you"

Here is the secret to trusting God--> Psalm 145:9 says "The Lord is good to all, and His tender mercies are over all His works." That's it. You have to believe that God is GOOD. That his intentions are GOOD. That his plan for your life is GOOD. You HAVE to believe that God is good and he doesn't have the capacity to be bad- because he is THAT GOOD.

You have probably heard the verse Jeremiah 29:11, this tells us that God has plans for our lives, plans to prosper us and not to harm us. You, daughter, have to believe that your heavenly father is doing the work in your life for GOOD. When you can establish a relationship knowing that he loves you enough to die for you... you can understand that a loving God doesn't want to hurt you. He doesn't want to punish you. He doesn't want you to ever be alone. Trusting God is hard because we let the world skew our view of Him. You see, trust is easy when you are never disappointed in someone, so if you could turn that disappointment into goodness, it will help ya. Try this:

"Okay God, I don't know what you're doing with this devastation in my life, but I trust that you are going to make something good come out of it"

So friend, stop running from the answer to your hurt, your past, your worry. Pray and ask God to restore that TRUST in him. Ask God to remind you of his goodness. Jeremiah 29:13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Seek him with alllll of your heart, God shows up I promise.

P.s if you are still itching about trust issues over a boy hit me up. I will chat and preach truth into you about boys all day long ;)

xoxo

-R